4 Lessons I've learned as I walk the path of my Soul's deepest longings

Over the past couple of years I have found myself riding the wave of a big life decision. Should I choose this or should I choose that? Do I want to take the well trodden path or forge my own path? Do I want to prioritize safety and security or do I want to venture into the wild unknown of my Soul’s deepest longing? Is this a sign from the Universe that I’m supposed to choose this or is that a sign that I’m supposed to choose that.

At times, I feel like I can pull my hair out flip flopping from one direction to the other. Big life decisions are so daunting. We want to make the “right” decision. We fear that to choose one, we must not choose the other. It can be easy (at least for me) to feel like I am swirling in chaos trying to grasp for any sense of clarity and control.

Sound familiar to you or is it just me? 🙂
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This process is so humbling. It has required me to surrender. And, when I feel like I have surrendered, then I am called to surrender even more. It has shown me the need to really examine my beliefs and ideas about life and myself. What do I believe to be true about life? What do I believe to be true about myself and my own capabilities? Why am I taking it all so seriously? Where am I limiting myself and trying to control?

This is the work and I wanted to share with you 4 things I have come to understand even more deeply through this process.

First, It’s so easy to get caught up in an either/or mentality. If I choose this then I can’t have that. It creates this false feeling of limitation. It’s one or the other, which makes choosing so much more stressful. The other day I woke up and remembered “both/and.” I get to live a “both/and” life. It’s not one or the other, it gets to be both. What had felt like an incredibly stressful choice to make became no choice at all. It gets to be both. This is such a liberating realization. I don’t have to sacrifice one to have the other, I get to create something new by combining both desires into something unique and perfect for me. The stress melted away and I began to feel something new… excitement!

Second, there are no wrong choices. We put so much pressure on making the “right” choice, of not wanting to regret our choices. But, the truth is there aren’t really any wrong choices. They are all part of our journey of expansion and awakening. They are all opportunities to grow and learn and to choose again, if necessary. What if we could give ourselves a little grace and add a little playfulness to it? We don’t have to take life so seriously. One decision doesn’t have to trap us for the rest of our lives. We can always pivot. We always get to learn what worked, what didn’t work, what we liked, what we didn’t, and make a new choice. Or maybe it will be the very best choice and things will work out grandly! Doesn’t really matter. No need for all the pressure.

Third, one of the scariest places to settle in is the Void. The great unknown, the nothingness, the womb of the divine mother. It’s terrifying! It’s also the space of infinite potential and possibility. It takes tremendous courage to not be lured back into the safety and security of the familiar. It takes faith to trust that the path will become clear to you in perfect, divine timing. It takes bravery to stay true to the inklings of your Soul’s desire even when it’s not clear, especially when it takes you off the beaten path. But, remember… both/and. You can have both safety and walk the path of the wild unknown. You can choose something that helps you feel secure while working towards a deeper desire that feels risky. And, even as I hold both, there have been so many times that I have not felt strong enough to rest in the Void or to forge my own path. To be honest, it is something I work with everyday. But, my last point below is what keeps me going.

Fourth, your tribe is everything! I truly do not think I would be continuing to forge my own path if I did not have the amazing humans in my life that cheer me on and help me remember who I really am and what I am capable of. They remind me when I am feeling scared, that it’s all good, that no matter what I am going to be okay. They remind me to lean into Spirit to guide me, to surrender to the love and support that is always all around me. They have patience with me when I flip flop around and don’t know what the heck I’m doing. They give me pep talks when I forget why I have chosen to live a life outside the status quo and they encourage me when I am on fire and full of inspiration. Our people are everything and when we are forging our own unique path it is essential to have a tribe that gets you, encourages you, and lifts you up!

Bottom line, when we are making a big life decision or attempting to forge our own path, it takes courage! Remember you can choose “both/and” instead of “either/or.” Remember there’s no need to stress too much on making the right choice because it’s all information and feedback. And lastly, build your tribe, your tribe is EVERYTHING!

Whether you are in this phase of life right now or not, I hope these words will find you when they are most needed. And, I hope you know that I am here to be part of your tribe and we get to walk this path together- encouraging one another, holding one another, reminding one another who we really are and what we are capable of!

With so much love and blessing!

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The A-ha moment that changed my life....

I’m a chanter and a girl that stands in front of the mirror and says awesome, loving things about herself.

A few years ago I did this in secret.

I would stand in front of my mirror with the doors closed and whisper my loving affirmations to myself hoping no one in my house could hear me because I was afraid they would think I was weird.

I would do my chanting early in the morning after my husband left for work and while my daughter was still asleep because I was afraid they would judge me or make fun of me if they heard me doing it.

Then one day I had an aha moment, I thought to myself, “If I’m afraid to be seen by my family, the people I feel the most comfortable with, something is really wrong.”

If I’m afraid of being judged within my own house then I know I have some work to do on my own self love, acceptance, worthiness, and confidence.

I decided in that moment that I was going to do the work. That I was going to practice being vulnerable, allowing myself to be seen in my allness and uncover and reprogram all the beliefs, fears, and stories that came up wanting to keep me small.

Where in your life are you dimming or hiding yourself out of fear?

That aha moment changed my life. It’s funny how the seemingly small moments can make a big impact in your life.

In that moment, I gave myself permission. Permission to be fully seen in my allness and though it started within the walls of my own home, it quickly extended out into all areas.

It cascaded into a personal mission to not dim or hide my truest self out of fear of being judged.

And, though it’s been scary at times and continues to push my edge, it’s also been absolutely liberating!

Here's an opportunity for you to journal on the following prompts to get clarity on how, where, and why you may be holding back, staying small, and not allowing yourself to be fully expressed. Get clarity on the stories, fears, etc that are keeping your from unapologetically owning your fullness. And, how to take action to become more fully expressed.

1. In what ways do you hide who you are?

2. With whom do you hold back, not share, stay small?

3. In what situations do you hold back, not share, stay small?

4. What are the stories and beliefs that come up for you when you think about being fully expressed in these situations? Let yourself really dive deep into all the stories, all the beliefs, all the reasons why it doesn’t feel safe, okay to be fully seen and expressed.

5. If you weren’t afraid about what anyone else thought about you, what they might say or think, who would you be? What would you do?

6. Do some tapping on the fear, stories, beliefs getting in the way of you showing up in your fullness (you can sign up for my free Tapping into Freedom, 7-day series to support you with this, https://fierce-artist-9496.ck.page/d84c664a77)

7. Choose 1 thing (to start) from your list from #4 and start to practice it now. What can you practice doing right now to be more fully expressed and seen? It is through action that we get to the other side of fear.

The time someone got mad at me and I didn’t go down the spiral of shame and beating myself up

How uncomfortable do you get with people being upset with you? How much do you feel like it’s your responsibility to “fix” the situation and make them happy? How often when someone is upset do you end up beating yourself up and feeling really bad about yourself because of it? And, on the flipside of this coin when someone gets upset with you how quickly do you go on defense trying to justify yourself? Do you get angry or defensive when people speak their truth and share why their upset?

I know for most of my life I avoided confrontation and upsetting people like the plague. I hated it. It was so uncomfortable and it would always end up one of two ways- either I would bend over backwards to fix it, worrying that they would hate me forever if I didn’t OR I would get defensive, “how dare they say,” feeling the need to protect and prove that I wasn’t a bad person.

Either way it went, I would feel like crap. I would ruminate about it for days and a heaviness would sit in my body as my nervous system struggled to let it go.

It sucked!

And, the truth is the reason why we either go on fix it mode or defense is because of our not enoughness. The belief that we’re not good enough. When someone gets upset at us it immediately triggers that deepest core belief that I believe 99% of us have that we’re not enough, we’re bad, somethings wrong with us. And so, we either try to fix it, make them happy, show that we are good, show that we are worthy because we can bend over backwards to make them happy again or we try and protect ourselves by judging them, making them bad, so as not to have to face that fact that our not enoughness has just been triggered.

But, what-if you didn’t have to do either? What if you loved yourself enough, knew your worth enough that you could hold space for someone else's feelings (even if they were projecting their own stuff onto you) without going down the spiral of self blame and protection? What if you could hear them out, own what was yours, apologize if appropriate, and then let it go? Walking away and not thinking about it again?

Doesn’t that sound amazing?

I knew I had hit a huge milestone of my self love and acceptance journey when I easily did just that.

Here’s what happened:

A friend reached out to me a few days after hanging out and let me know that something I had done had really upset her. She came across quite aggressively and was making a few accusations about me that weren’t true. I noticed that my nervous system immediately went on high alert and I wanted to go into defense to fight back against what she had assumed about me in this exchange. But, instead of reacting immediately, I was able to take a step back and look at the situation from a greater perspective. I was able to see that I had made a mistake and could sincerely apologize for that AND that I didn’t need to justify myself, defend myself, or take her interpretation of my intent as truth about me. I was able to separate her perception of the exchange and how she perceived me, and my intention with what was true in my heart and what I know about myself.

I didn’t need to start a fight with her to prove that my intentions weren’t malicious or bad. I didn’t need to point out her flaws or push the blame on her. I didn’t need to call up all my other friends and hash it out and get them to side with me to feel validated and prove I was likeable and a good person. I didn’t hold onto it for days going over the conversation over and over again and thinking of all the things I could have said, all the reasons why she’s not a good friend anyway. I didn’t go into judging her, and putting her down to make myself feel better. I didn’t text her over and over again to make sure she was okay, and did she still like me, were we good, is there anything else I could do to let her know how sorry I was. (I used to do all these things to try and make myself feel better)

Instead, I appreciated her for being honest with me about how she felt. I took responsibility for the mistake I made and I sincerely apologized. I didn’t hold onto the perceptions she had about me because they weren’t true. And, then I let the whole conversation go.

It was so simple. It was so easy.

When you love yourself, truly love yourself, you no longer feel the need to justify or defend yourself to prove your worth, you no longer need to bend over backwards to make someone else feel better because you’re afraid of not being liked.

You get to just be. You can hold space for other people’s feelings without attaching any story about what it means about you.

This is what a confident and self-loving woman looks like.

The opportunity here for you is to notice the next time someone gets upset at you, what your immediate response is.

Do you go on the defense?

Do you try and bend over backwards to fix it?

Does your nervous system go into overdrive?

Is it hard for you to let it go?

What are the stories you tell yourself about yourself when someone gets upset with you?

Get curious if you’re trying to prove or hustle for love and acceptance? Can you give yourself the love and acceptance you desire so you no longer go down the spiral of shame and beating yourself up when your “not enoughness” is triggered?

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The Before and After of letting go of fear and living a heart-led life

You may or may not have noticed that I have been pretty much MIA for the past 3 months. Part of me wants to begin this email with an apology for not showing up, but I will refrain because the truth is that my decision to switch my focus and take a break from my business did not come lightly. And, I will not apologize for stepping away because the decision to do so came from my heart, it came from a deep listening to what I needed, what my family needed, and what felt the most nourishing and true to me in that moment. 

So, I come back to you proud, restored, rejuvenated, and with so much fire in my belly to continue to embody and teach what it means when as women, we truly prioritize ourselves, our soul’s whispers, our needs, and our joy and well-being.

But, let me backtrack a bit and share my process.  Three months ago I found myself not only juggling being a mother and an entrepreneur, but also a 3rd grade teacher.  With a daughter who struggles in school and needs extra support I quickly realized that trying to continue to be in my business and show up for my amazing community and be there for my daughter in the way she needed me during distance learning wasn’t working.

I noticed that showing up online and in my business started to feel really stressful.  I noticed that I was feeling resentful that my daughter was taking so much of my time and was irritable and grumpy with her when she needed me.  It felt awful.  I didn’t know how to manage her needs and the needs of my business simultaneously and she was getting the brunt of my struggle.

For awhile, I thought that what I wanted was to stay connected to my business, stay connected to my community because I feel such a deep purpose and joy in what I do and I was desperately trying to hang onto that while also managing all the other new needs of me.

But, the deeper I dug (and pay attention here because this is key) the more I realized that what I thought was my desire to remain in my business was actually driven by fear.  When I really took the time to dive deep within myself- to get curious about what was really going on, to slow down and ask the questions “what do I really want?  What would feel the most nourishing and joyful to my soul right now?” what I found surprised me.

What I really wanted was to be with my daughter.  What I really wanted was to support her in the best way I could while she was in distance learning. So, why was I resisting that?  Why did I keep striving to stay in my business if it was causing so much stress?

Fear!

What I found to be true when I dove deep within myself is that if I let go of my business, if I stopped showing up then I had failed.  What if I let it go for good?  What if I lost all the momentum of what I had been creating for the past 2 years?  What if my community forgot about me? What if they no longer trusted me because I didn’t show up all the time.  If I let it go for now then I would be reaffirming that same old story that I didn’t follow through.  That I start and don’t finish things.  So, in my mind there was too much at stake if I let it all go. I would be a failure.  I would lose everything I created.  My family would be disappointed in me that I didn’t follow through on what I said I wanted.  I would be a bad role model (and mother) for my daughter if she saw me give up.

Whoa! Whoa! Whoa!! How interesting.  How very, very interesting! Where did I get all of those ideas? Because business coaches tell you you have to show up consistently or you’ll never be successful.  Because of a story I told myself in the past that I don’t follow through.  Because of some made up belief I created that the only way I could be a good mom and role model to my daughter is if she saw me succeed at this one thing.  And, if I let this part of my life go for the time being then I was a failure.  Wow!

No wonder I was holding on for dear life.  No wonder I was trying to force myself to stick to it even though it was making me miserable and not allowing me to support my daughter in the way she needed and the way I wanted to show up for her.

I know this example I’m sharing is about my business so you may not relate to it very much, but can you see how this happens in every area of our life?

I have to keep going to the gym every morning because if I don’t I will have failed, my husband won’t think I’m sexy and attractive, everyone will judge me for not following through because I said I was going to go everyday for the whole year, I will get fat and ugly, I will……

If I choose to go to yoga or a long walk instead of staying home to help with the kids then I’m being selfish, my kids will be upset I’m leaving, my husband will resent me for taking too much time to myself, my family needs me, I’m a bad mom/wife if I don’t do what they want/need me to do……

We do this to ourselves all the time!!!!  We have let our fear lead the way rather than our heart and intuition.  We have trusted fear and forced ourselves to keep going down a path that doesn’t feel good based on worn out stories of what it means if we don’t.

Well, this time I chose not to let fear lead the way and do what my heart wanted instead.  I chose to walk away from my business temporarily and focus on my daughter because that is what I really wanted.

And, I am so glad I did! These last three months have been amazing with my daughter, they have given me exactly what I needed. And, now I am coming back to my community from a place of excitement, joy, passion, and play.  I am coming back to you now not from a place of “have to” or “need to,” but from a place of desire.  My heart has told me that it is now time to come back and it feels so good!!

Being able to let go, releasing all the fears, all the worries, all the what-if’s, all the stories, and having faith that when it was time to come back I would know, that when it was time to come back I would come back with clean energy, I would come back invigorated, renewed, and excited to reconnect.

And, because I let go and I trusted the process of life, that is exactly what happened!

So, I will leave you with this….

Is there any area of your life that you are forcing?

Is there any area of your life that you are experiencing as a “have to” or a “should?”

The opportunity here for you is to get curious.  Why are you forcing?  What makes you feel you have to?  Where is the should coming from?  

If you can de-story the old programming, if you can witness the fear, then you begin to take your power back.  This is how you create more choice.  When you blindly let fear lead the way you become a victim to your life.  You feel like you don’t have a choice.  But, when you get curious, when you start to look underneath the veil, you now have so much more information.  You now have the opportunity to choose to stay in your fear or to choose a heart led life, to choose to trust the process of life and that you’re always being guided in the right direction when you follow what feels good.

Which will you choose…. fear or freedom?

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The SECRET to Letting Go of People Pleasing For Good

I am guilty of being a compulsive people pleaser.

For as long as I can remember I avoided confrontation at all cost.

I was so uncomfortable with the idea of people being upset at me. As a little kid when my mom said she was disappointed in me or my behavior I would immediately burst into tears.  

As a teen I refused to burn any bridges even when I continued to be burned (insert toxic friendships and crappy boyfriends).

As an adult the same patterns of lose boundaries and people pleasing continued.  I was a “Yes” girl even when I wanted to say no. I was a “go with the flow” girl even when it didn’t feel good.

There were a few times in the past couple of years that I experienced friends holding healthy boundaries (and not people pleasing) and it was reflected back to me that my annoyance of their unwillingness to compromise was actually just examples of healthy boundaries.  They weren’t being mean, they weren’t disregarding my feelings or needs intentionally, but they were holding healthy and strong personal boundaries for themselves. In the moments that both of those incidents were reflected back to me (very close to each other) it was like an ‘aha’ moment.  My annoyance was only because I had no boundaries and expected other people to be the same.

And what it boils down to is the real reason I was such a people pleaser was because I wanted to be liked.  I was so fearful of what others thought of me, whether or not they liked me, or wanted to be my friend. I wanted to feel validated, important, good enough, and my way of doing that was by making others happy.

People pleasing is exhausting and depleting and never actually made me feel good enough, liked, or important on a deep soul level.  It was a surface level bandaid for a much bigger wound and my soul wasn’t fooled.

But, when these types of patterns have been ingrained in you for most of your life it takes real work, awareness and determination to change them.

Here are 2 Things You MUST Do To Let Go of People Pleasing for Good:

Let Go of Your Need to Be Liked by Everyone

Because here’s the deal you will never be liked by everyone.  And there is no need to be. The energy behind people pleasing only attracts more people into your life that will take advantage of your lose boundaries.  But, when you create healthy boundaries and make your needs just as important as everyone else’s then energetically you are attracting the right people into your life that will support, love, and respect you even when you aren’t bending over backwards for them.  And, funny thing is the people that held really strong boundaries with me I came to really respect because of it. I didn’t dislike them, judge them, or take it personally. I saw them as teachers of a very important lesson. 

Start Loving Yourself Instead

When you love yourself deeply you no longer need approval and acceptance by everyone else. It’s time to create healthy boundaries that honor your needs. Before saying “yes,” ask yourself “is this honoring me? Is this supportive, kind, and respectful to me? Will this fill me up or deplete me and cause resentment?” And secondly, prioritize self-care and self-love practices by creating a powerful daily routine. For ideas on what to include in a daily routine that will make feeling good your new normal and establish a foundation of self love and worthiness check out my free guide, The 1st Step to Manifesting A Life You Love.

Why You Don't Have the Life You Desire and How to Change it

You desperately want to make a change in your life.  You’re feeling stuck. You’re feeling like something is missing.  You are yearning to experience more from life. You are yearning for something that will make you feel alive again.  Maybe it’s a job that lights you up and you’re excited to go to everyday. Maybe it’s connection and belonging and you want to be able to walk into a room feeling so confident and proud of who you are that you show up big, vibrant, and don’t have a care about what anyone thinks of you.  Maybe it’s following a dream, your purpose, that you know if you did, it would completely transform your life.

But, something keeps getting in the way.  Something stops you in your tracks from taking the leap into that big dream, that new career, or stepping further in owning who you are with confidence.  Want to guess what it is…..?

FEAR!  

That’s right, fear is the reason you don’t have the life you desire.  Fear creates paralysis. What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough? What if they judge me? What if they reject me? What if I am totally humiliated? Sound familiar? I know I am not the only one who has heard these gremlins in my head a many a times. We all have that voice in our head that so “lovingly” tries to keep us safe by ensuring us that we are too dumb, too old, too young, too lame, too something terrible to step outside our comfort zone.  To step into the life we most desire.

It’s okay. You’re not alone.  It’s your subconscious’s way of trying to keep you safe. Fear is totally normal AND it doesn’t have to be in control.  I let fear run the show for almost 2 decades. It stopped me from even trying to become a masseuse after going through massage school.  My gremlin told me it was way too dangerous and scary to apply to a job and have to be critiqued by the owner. I would fail. They would reject me and I would have confirmation that I was not good enough.  I really enjoyed massage. I spent 9 months and a good chunk of money becoming certified and fear stopped me from doing anything with that. Fear has stopped me most of my adult life from showing up fully in relationships because what if they saw the real me and knew that I was damaged and didn’t want to be my friend.  I’ve craved connection and belonging my whole adult life and fear has kept me from actually experiencing it because here’s the deal, you have to be brave enough to be seen in order to experience true belonging and connection. My fear of not being good enough kept me separate from the belonging I longed for most of my life.

But, here’s what happens when you don’t let fear take the reins anymore.  After 4 years of being too afraid to listen to the little voice inside of me that was saying I was meant to do more in this world, that I was meant to make a big impact, I finally listened to that voice.  I’d spent 4 years ignoring it because I couldn’t even fathom a possibility where that was a reality for me. I was comfortable in my mediocre admin job, living a mediocre life, and I couldn’t envision myself stepping into myself and my life in such a big way.  But, when I decided to listen to that voice, and not only that, speak what that voice was whispering to me out loud and into the world (even though I was terrified to do so), Boom!! My life changed. In less than a year, my life has become what I didn’t think was possible.  I left that mediocre job, I let go of my side hustles (all but one really small one that I really enjoy), I became a life coach, went through a business program, and am currently seeing a good amount of clients, and being paid for it! And, I have attracted the most amazing women into my life and deepened the relationships I already had. Because I DECIDED to acknowledge the fear, and do it anyways! I had to let go of my fear of judgment, my fear of not being good enough, my fear of failure, and put faith in me, who I wanted to become, and the life I wanted to create for myself.  And, that doesn’t mean that the fear isn’t there anymore, but what it means is that the fear is not in control anymore. I get to choose who’s in the driver’s seat and I always choose me! Every time I come up against another opportunity to expand, to step out of my comfort zone, to grow, I feel the fear and I choose to take action anyways. That’s the beauty of it, you get to choose, you are responsible for the life you want to live and fear does not have to stop you!

This is the path to a Life Reclaimed.  And, I am so excited for my new group program coming out in early 2020, Her Life Reclaimed where I will guide an amazing group of women who are ready to Reclaim Their Life, own their power, step into their truth, feel the most confident they have ever felt, and create a life they love.  It is going to be epic and so much fun!!! 

But, I digress, let me give you these 5 tools you can use when fear comes up so that you can take your power back and have the confidence to move forward toward what you most desire.

Name The Fear

When you are able to name the fear it loses some of its power.  So, notice when it comes up and name it. Is it a fear of failure? Is it a fear of judgment? Is it a fear of not being good enough? Not being worthy enough? Is it a fear of rejection? Awareness is the foundation of any transformational work.  You need to know what’s there because that is what allows you the ability to do the work to transcend it.

Question The Fear

Start to get a better understanding of why the fear is there. Pull out your journal and a pen and ask yourself, when did I first feel this fear? When is the earliest memory I have of feeling this fear? When did I first decide this was true? What stories am I telling myself about myself that keeps me in this place of fear?

Release and Reprogram

Once you are able to name the fear and identify some it’s origins it’s time to release and reprogram.  I work with my clients using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting to get to the core of the subconscious belief so we can release the emotional trauma and energy and reimprint a new empowering belief in its place.  This work is deep and transformational, it creates shifts at a fundamental, subconscious level that allows them to step into a newer more empowered version of themselves that no longer is bound by their fear and limiting beliefs.  So, whether you work with me, another coach, or have your own tools and modalities, you will want to release and reprogram the fear and limiting beliefs underneath them. If you are interested in learning more about how to work with me to release and reprogram using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting just comment below.

Take Empowered Action

The biggest antidote to fear is action.  Fear can keep you stuck in your tracks forever, but all it takes is one small step forward and then another and another to move through fear and gain confidence.  You see, once we start to take action we immediately feel proud, empowered, and more confident. You proved to yourself that you can do it AND you didn’t die! And, everytime you feel the fear and take action anyway you build up more and more evidence that you can continue to look back on that proves that you have done it before, you survived and actually felt empowered and more confident on the other side. And, here are a few questions you can ask yourself that can help you move into action. Who am I without this fear? What choices would I make if the fear wasn’t there? What would my life look like without this fear? What will I lose if I let this fear stop me from moving forward? These are incredibly powerful questions to help you identify with a version of yourself that is beyond the fear so that you can take action from that place. 

The “What If” Game

This is a super fun and playful game that takes your fear and flips the script.  So, if your about to walk into a room and you’re feeling nervous and not sure what you are going to say (anyone really uncomfortable with small talk!) and you’re thinking, “what if they judge me? What if I don’t know what to say?” with the “What If” game you just flip the script and build yourself up, and instead you think to yourself, “what if I walk in and have the best time ever. What if I make conversation really easily and everyone loves me.  What if I didn’t worry about what or who I talk to, but just go have fun. What if I show up completely, 100% my authentic self and don’t give an F what anyone thinks and just has a great time!” You can go on and on. See, how fun it is. Get creative, be your biggest cheerleader and turn your negative, fear based “what ifs” into your most empowered, confidence producing, fun, and playful “what ifs.” Go ahead and try this the next time you find yourself feeling the fear and wanting to get small and not take action, play the what if game and then take empowered action!

So, I hope my story and these tools have inspired you to take your power back and not let fear have the reigns in your life.  You deserve to live a life you love and be the most empowered, confident, and joyful version of yourself. And, let me tell you so much of creating that life and that version of you comes on the other side of your fear.  These are a few of the tools I use with my clients to help them Reclaim Their Lives, if you are ready or interested in learning more about coaching with me you can comment below. I would love to chat. I only have 2 spots open in January and I would be so honored to walk alongside you as you journey the path of your Life Reclaimed!

So much love,

Shaina

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